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Disability Narratives

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Video clip: Liz found she did not always know what she wanted day-to-day, but appreciated people asking.

I'm still, I'm still trying to figure this out. And I still don't know what I want [laugh] in a way. So, I'm still trying to figure out - you know - [sigh] - you know - when do I want to just keep hammering away and doing something myself, and trying to do something myself? And when do I ask for help? And initially when I first returned to work, I felt quite suffocated by the people that wanted to help. So there was always someone in my office going "Do you want me to plug something in? Shall I do this? Shall I do that? Can I?" And then I would move, and they'd like jump out of the way. And there was - you know. Because everyone was huddled so close to me, and then I'd try to move, and then people would like worry because they were in my way, and I was going to run over their toes.

Is to talk to them about it, and explain. And say "Look, I'm really awkward about this." Or "Do you want me to open doors for you? Do you want me to come in in the morning and plug stuff in?" You know? Ask. And, and some days I'll be just like "Yes, I want you to open doors for me." And some days it'll be like "No, I want to do it myself." And, and I'm going to be really inconsistent around that, and people have to get used to that. So it's always - it's always better to ask. And I, the more I think about it, the more I really appreciated this colleague saying to me that, that he didn't know how to move around me.