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Disability Narratives

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Video clip: Maria describes how it has been hard for her daughter to adapt to the changes in her life since she lost her sight, but how she has found the kindness of strangers to be a positive.

But then I always say to people, "Please, please, please - if I pass you on the street, do not expect me to say hello. On the contrary. If you complain that I haven't said hello, I will tell you - you can see, I cannot. That's my excuse. But what is yours." And they laugh, I laugh about this a lot. One day my daughter - my daughter - knock on my door. She doesn't live with me. I opened the door, and I don't know why she didn't say anything. And I say, "Can I help you?" She said "Oh Mum, don't be silly - it's me." [sharp intake of breath] "Oh. Right, okay. Now I know why I'm registered blind." [Laughing]. And we laugh about it. She gets upset, because I laugh. And I said "Do you want me to sit down and cry?" "No." "Let's laugh about it, and forget about it." So it's, yeah. It's different situations. But I tend to move them round to be positive, rather than negative.

And I have to say, nowadays, people say like in restaurants or pubs or say supermarkets, or even taking the train - so many people come to ask, "Are you alright? Can I help you?" So I always say "Thank you, we are alright, my dog will do it. We are alright, but thank you for asking." I always say "Thank you for asking." Because that's important for us. The other thing that I have noticed since I've got Tex is people start talking to me because of my dog, not because of me, but because of my dog. But then I don't care. At least people are talking to me. Which is nice. It's brilliant. So not all the time I'm positive, but I'm trying to be the majority of the time.